This is a 5 lesson Christian relationship Bible study with questions. It can be used by the couple themselves to study together or by a counselor guiding the couple to the Biblical truths regarding relationships, courtship, dating, and marriage. Rather than a lecture where the teacher or counselor tells all of his opinions about marriage, the goal of this study is to lead the couple themselves to discover the Biblical truth and important principles on marriage. Thus it is an interactive study where all are encouraged to participate and carefully study the Word to understand what God is telling us. Both sides should come to the Word with an open heart and freely share their own thoughts, questions, or doubts. By so doing you can get to know each other better as well as the Lord.

Christian Relationship Bible Study Discussion Questions – Lesson 4 – What Is The Husband’s Role?

Lesson 1: A Healthy Courtship

Lesson 2: Principles of Communication

Lesson 3: Basic Truths of Marriage

Lesson 4: The Husband’s Role

Lesson 5: The Wife’s Role

Lesson 4 – Husband’s Role

1 Peter 3:7 – A Husband Should Learn His Wife

  • What principle can you learn from this verse?

  • How is a husband supposed to treat his wife?

  • List out several ways you can honor your wife.

  • In what ways is a wife weaker than her husband? Knowing this, what should the husband do?

  • Women are much different than men? How can you understand your partner better?

  • Why is it important for a husband to learn about his wife?

  • In what aspects do you need to increase your understanding for your partner? How will you do this?

  • According to this verse, what is the consequence of having a bad relationship with your spouse (Psalm 66:18)?

  • What are five (5) practical ways in which husbands can demonstrate both their willingness & abilities as a “learner” to their wives?

Ephesians 5:25-33 – A Husband Should Love His Wife

  • What is the husband’s responsibility?

  • What is love? Define it.

  • With what kind of love? How did Christ love the church?

  • How is this different than the world’s standard? What kind of love do most worldly husbands have?

  • What other job to the husbands have (helping to edify/cleanse their wives)?

  • What other degree are we to love our wives (as much as our own body)?

  • Why does it say “he who loves his own wife, loves himself”?

  • When must a husband love the wife? What if she is being unsubmissive?

  • What if she is doing wrong?

  • How can a husband nourish and cherish his wife?

  • How successful do you think a marriage following this pattern would be?

Case Studies (Discuss as many as you have time for.)

  1. You find out that your wife has not been reading the Bible regularly. She is discouraged in her walk with the Lord and is not being diligent. What is the loving thing to do?

  2. Your company offers you a promotion. It will mean more money for your family. But it will also mean you are required to do more OT and will have less time to spend with your family. What is the loving thing to do?

  3. You have been working OT and are tired. Your baby wakes up repeatedly in the middle of the night and cries so it is hard for you and your wife to sleep. What is the loving thing to do?

  4. You have just returned from a tiring day at the office. You want to just relax and browse your phone or watch TV for a while. Your wife starts telling you many details about an event that seems insignificant to you. What is the loving thing to do?

  5. Your wife has a bad habit of speaking before she thinks. You notice that she is saying some insensitive words to a sister at church. What is the loving thing to do?

What can a husband learn about how to love from each of the following verses?

  • 1 John 4:19

  • 1 John 3:18

  • Romans 5:8

  • Colossians 3:19

Matthew 20:20-28 – A Husband Should Lead (also seen in Ephesians 5) His Wife

  • How do the Gentiles/unbelievers lead?

  • What is leadership not?

  • What is biblical leadership?

  • What should the husband as head do if he and his wife disagree on a decision that needs to be made (for example: house to buy or rent, which city to live in, which church to go to, what school to send children to, whose parents to visit for a holiday)?

Study The Wife’s Role