This is a 5 lesson courtship and dating Bible study to help you develop a godly relationship. It can be used by the couple themselves to study together or by a counselor guiding the couple to the Biblical truths regarding relationships, courtship, dating, and marriage. Rather than a lecture where the teacher or counselor tells all of his opinions about marriage, the goal of this study is to lead the couple themselves to discover the Biblical truth and important principles on marriage. Thus it is an interactive study where all are encouraged to participate and carefully study the Word to understand what God is telling us. Both sides should come to the Word with an open heart and freely share their own thoughts, questions, or doubts. By so doing you can get to know each other better as well as the Lord.

Godly Relationships Courtship and Dating Bible Study – Lesson 5 – The Wife’s Role

Lesson 1: A Healthy Courtship

Lesson 2: Principles of Communication

Lesson 3: Basic Truths of Marriage

Lesson 4: The Husband’s Role

Lesson 5: The Wife’s Role

Lesson 5: The Wife’s Role

Ephesians 5:22-24

  • What principle can wives learn from this verse?

  • To what degree do they need to submit?

  • Why does this passage say that the wife needs to submit?

  • In what areas should the wife submit?

  • What does it mean to submit? What is the difference between external submission and internal submission?

  • What should the wife do if she disagrees with her husband’s decision?

  • Some say that the husband is the head, but the wife is the neck who turns the head. Do you think this approach is right?

Isaiah 14:13 – What is the first case of rebellion?

Isaiah 53:6 – Who struggles with not submitting?

Philippians 2:5-9, 1 Peter 2:21-25 –

  • What can we learn from Jesus’ example in this area?

  • To whom was He submitting?

  • What challenges or temptations did he face which made submission difficult?

  • How can you follow Jesus’ example in this area?

Case Studies

  1. Your husband wants you to home school the children. Your friends and relatives disagree. You feel unprepared and inadequate. What should you do?

  2. Your husband feels that certain clothes in your wardrobe are immodest. He doesn’t say anything, but you can tell he doesn’t like them. You don’t feel the same way. What should you do?

  3. You found a good deal on a new piece of furniture for your home. But you are a little worried that your husband will not agree to buy it. You have enough money with you and don’t want to miss the sale. What should you do?

  4. You are at the bank and are offered a great deal on a special account. This account pays 15% interest instead of the 3% normally offered. You are pressed to make a decision quickly while the deal is still available. What should you do?

Genesis 2:18 –

  • What can you learn from this passage about why God created woman?

  • In what ways can a wife help her husband?

  • How can you help your present/future husband in ministry? In work? In spiritual life? Write down three specific ways for each area.

Ephesians 5:33 –

  • How should a wife treat her husband based on this passage?

  • What does it mean to respect your husband?

  • How can you let your husband know you respect him?

  • How can you show respect to your husband when is not present?

  • How can you show respect to your husband when is present?

  • What are some non-verbal ways that wives may demonstrate disrespect or lack of submission towards their husband?

  • Write out two things you respect about your present/future husband –

1 Peter 3:1-6 –

  • What principles can you learn from these verses which you can apply in marriage?

  • How should you treat your husband if he is disobeying God?

  • What unique insight can you get about what submission is like from verse 1?

  • What does this passage teach about dress?

  • How can you apply verse 4?

Titus 2:4-5 –

  • What principles can you learn from this verse about the role of a wife/mother? Will you feel fulfilled by doing these things or do you need outside work so that you can have a sense of achievement?

  • What does this passage say about women and the home? What are the problems with a woman having a career outside the home?

  • What challenges and temptations will a woman and the whole family face if a wife/mother pursues a career outside the home?

  • How would you explain the phrase “workers at home?” How might this contrast with the worldly idea of a housewife?

  • What should you do if one salary is not enough?

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